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Individual Interviews

This post may be super boring for you but I searched and searched for information on what social workers ask during the home study process. My hope is this alleviates some fear and stress over "preparing" for the interviews. Today I had my individual interview for our home study. Both Chris and I were supposed to be interrogated interviewed but he had to work instead so we can go to a wedding on Saturday. He will make his up on the 26th or 28th and he'll do it on the same day as our home inspection part!! That means we should be wrapping this whole thing up by the end of the month!! After that, our work is done and our social workers will be writing our home study.

So a quick recap of my interview. She asked:

  • About my relationship with all family members and how they feel about our adoption. 
  • About my parent's marriage and how I perceived it. 
  • About my parents/siblings occupations, where they lived, how old they are, where I am in birth order, their temperaments, how often we talk/see each other. 
  • Our relationship history, dating, engagement and marriage.
  • What I identify as my strengths and weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses in our marriage. 
  • How I feel about myself (self-esteem).
  • How we plan to talk with our child about adoption and how open we are about discussing it. 
  • Who is my "circle", who will I turn to for support when things get hard
  • How I handle stress, ways of coping when it gets hard
  • My educational background, where I went to high school, undergrad and graduate
  • How satisfied/valued I feel in my profession
  • If there are any fertility issues preventing us from having biological kids.
  • Overall health, mental, emotional and physical
If I think of more questions I'll add them later. Overall it was easier than I thought, the worrying and fretting was all for nothing! Adopting parents, don't fear!!


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