About Us

We are Chris and Megan. First and foremost we love our Savior, Jesus Christ. We are daily humbled by His plan for our lives and love seeing what he does when we trust him. We have always wanted to adopt but had planned on having biological kids first. We felt God calling us to adoption first and after lots of prayer are excited to be starting our first adoption! We love the people and culture of Uganda and are excited to bring that culture into our family. We seek to honor God in our adoption and eventually in the way we raise our kids. We covet your prayers as this will be a long but exciting journey to our forever family!

Saturday, January 31, 2015

Staying the Course

Many of you saw my intagram post rejoicing as we passed the 1 year mark on our adoption journey but anticipated a possibly difficult call the next day from our case worker.



Then many of you saw the instagram post pleading for prayer as our hearts broke hearing new news.

Here's a brief synopsis of what we heard...



To go into more depth, there is a panel that has been established in Uganda. Their main job is to find permanent homes within Uganda. This panel works at the local and national level. There are 19 children's homes willing to work with the panel to first and foremost find kids permanent homes within Uganda. There are some who sit on this panel who are in favor of international adoption and there are many who are not in favor of international adoption. Our agency had worked with 5 children's homes: 1 is fully working with the panel, 2 are extremely cautious and going to use the panel as a last resort and 2 are unwilling to work with the panel at this time. (There is massive level of distrust in the government as they have been very corrupt: we do believe they are truly trying to do what is best for the child in this case.) That leaves our agency working with only 1 home who will fully submit to the guidelines of the panel. Our chances of adopting just decreased by 80%. Of the children in this home, the panel will probably only allow "older" children and children with "special needs" to be internationally adopted. The significant distrust of this panel have left international adoptions through our agency in a standstill with no timeline or even a estimate on a timeline

The panel's main job is to place children with Ugandan families or reunite them with their biological family. The absolute last resort is international adoption.

We had few options:

               1. Switch to another agency (there aren't many we trust and which we feel are honoring                            Uganda with their adoptions)
               2. Switch programs to another country our agency works with
               3. Leave adoption all together, Uganda is just too risky
               4. Stay with our agency and stay in the Uganda program knowing there is no guarantees and                    no timeline and the continued possibility that international adoptions will close                                    completely.

This left us with was aching hearts and questions on what do we do? We spent the day praying individually and then talking together about what this looks like for us and our family. I spent hours looking at other countries within our agency, other agencies with international programs only to quickly close out the page not feeling like it was right. I saw countless faces on "waiting" child lists and still didn't feel they were meant to be part of our family.

Throughout the day, I repeatedly heard God telling me to "stay the course" and to "be still" (Exodus 14:14). When we were talking Chris said, "I feel God is telling us to 'stay the course'" It was powerful to know that God was speaking the same thing to us individually. We decided that night to stick with the Uganda program but wanted to take a few more days to pray and seek wisdom from family and friends.

We are staying the course, whatever twists and turns, mountains and valleys, storms and calm seas. We aren't walking away, choosing another country or giving up on adoption all together. We have no idea when or if our family will grow through a Ugandan adoption but we are pursuing it until all doors slam closed.

We want to let our child/children know that we fought everything to bring them home, that seemingly insurmountable circumstances didn't send us fleeing, that we fought with everything in us and didn't walk away. So we are staying the course, this road may be many many years long but until God calls us away, we are sticking to it. At this point we don't know what each new day will hold but we feel confident we are called adopt from Uganda.


Monday, January 5, 2015

Paper Pregnant!

We've spent a few days in Phoenix with family  which was agonizing not knowing if our I-600 A was sitting in the mail box. Chris went home yesterday and it had arrived!!

As of today we are officially paper pregnant!! 

We emailed it off to our adoption agency and they emailed back and we are #11 on the wait list.

#11

This number can fluctuate a bit depending on what family is best fit for the child/children. Things may quiet down a bit as we enter into a season of waiting. The only thing we are going to need to do between now and accepting a referral is to keep our home study, biometrics and I-600a current...none of which needs to be done in the next 18 months. We will keep updating as we move up the wait list but we would love prayer as we prepare to bring our child home!

We have also set up an adopt together account. Any money donated to here will go directly to our agency and adoption expenses. It is also tax deductible!

You can also follow our journey in pictures through Instagram at slowly_by_slowly (there is also a link is on the right side of this page)

Thursday, January 1, 2015

Rejoice in Hope!

Happy New Year!! We hope you and your family had a wonderful holiday season! We spent time  in Northern California with Chris' family and get to have a few days in Arizona with my family! We rang in the new year with dear friends and had a great time!

Starting off 2015, I'd been thinking about a word or phrase to set the tone for this year. We don't expect much in our adoption as once we're on the wait list (still waiting on immigration to come back) we will just wait....probably all of 2015. I struggle with not being able to do anything or have control of but I'm learning to trust and wait in the Lord.

For the past few weeks I've been thinking about the wait and wanting to wait well and in a way that honors God's sovereignty instead of my control. Advent this year has shown me how waiting isn't futile, it prepares our hearts for what's to come. A few weeks ago Sarah Hagerty wrote: "Waiting, in Him, isn't sitting, it's expecting. It's a heart stance that says, You are both coming and You are here, now." That's the waiting I want. I want to remember that the waiting has a purpose and I have the option to wait with a joyful or

The Lord laid Romans 12:12 on my heart as my theme verse which encompasses this joyful waiting. "Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer." What a powerful reminder to rejoice, keep a joyful heart while we wait or hope this year. I got this awesome printable from The Olive Tree to use on my phone, print out and put in our house, my classroom etc. I expect to need the constant reminder of how to wait well but what a privilege to have God's word as a guide.