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How Did We Get Here?

I, Megan, have always wanted 2 things...to be a wife and a mom. The wife thing is amazing, I love every day of marriage. I knew I wanted to marry Chris after just a few months but not so patiently waited 5 1/2 years until Chris finished school. During that time we had plenty of time to pray and dream about our family.  Sometime early on I told him I desperately wanted to adopt. He was easily convinced but we were planning on adopting after we having biological kids.

Fast forward a few years I have spent 5 months in Uganda, he spent 5 months in Costa Rica, we both desperately love the unloved and marginalized, we are married and we want to start a family. Spring/Summer of 2013 I started researching all things babies and God began to move in my heart.

Without telling Chris I started praying God would clearly show us when and how we were supposed to have kids. I read parenting books and adoption books and God convinced me adoption was first. Late July 2013, I told Chris that I thought we should adopt first. I didn't know how hard it would be for him. He asked me for a few weeks to think, pray and figure everything out. I almost died in the anticipation and geared up for defending adoption. My sweet husband did just as he promised and then came to me with a vulnerable heart. He told me how he had always dreamed of watching my belly grow, and thinking about what our bio kids would look like. Suggesting adopting first changed all of that but God also changed his heart to wanting adoption first. We prayed for months before telling our families and finally let everyone in over the holidays!!

That is the story through our eyes although I am convinced God would have a different story. His story probably says something more like "This was my plan all along I just had to do some work to get them on board." We are so thankful for an omniscient God who knew this plan all along. We are so thankful for a caring God who held us in His hands and who is holding our child/children in his hands. While we already adore him/her even before meeting, we know He loves them far more. In the time we could not be their parents, He was intricately weaving their story for His glory and caring for them as only He can.

That's our journey so far (in a nutshell). We would love to talk with anyone more or if you have questions, leave a comment and we'll do a FAQ post!

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